IN THE PORTION of the Torah which was read this
morning we are told, "And Abraham grew old and came into
days and God blessed Abraham with everything" (Gen. 24: 1).
The question that poses itself is: how is one blessed with
everything in old age? The Yalkut (Gen. 103) supplies
several answers by quoting a number of biblical verses and
applying them to Abraham. Here are three of them which can
serve as guides to a happy and useful old age. "Who shall
ascend the mountain of the Lord, and who shall stand in His
holy place" (Psalms 24:3). "Strength and dignity are her
clothing; and she laugheth at the time to come" (Proverbs 31:
25). "The crowning glory of old age is in the path of
righteousness" Ibid. 17:31).
From time immemorial man has had the desire to remain
young. When he began to feel that his strength was beginning
to wane and that his days and years were slipping away, he
was prepared to do almost anything to retrieve the past. We
are told that Ponce de Leon spent a lifetime in a vain search
for the fountain of youth. Novelists, dramatists and poets have
written numerous volumes on this intriguing subject. One of
the great masterpieces in world literature, Goethe's Faust ,
deals in part with this theme.
Now let me make it clear at the outset that I know of no
religious objection to trying to be physically healthy and
strong. On the contrary, one of the things we pray for when
we bentch Rosh Chodesh is chayim shel chilutz
atzamot . We ask for a life of bodily vigor that we may be
physically fit and mentally alert.
I do object, however, to those who refuse to face the facts
and will not act their age; who do utterly ridiculous things in
order to be considered young. I find it hard to tolerate those
who spend fortunes in their "twilight zone" on plastic surgery
and potions in an effort to become young again, oon ess helft
vee a toiten bankess.
I pity those who close cheir minds to the fact that they
have passed the stages of adolescence, maturity and middle
life, but who continue to dress, talk, dance and carry on as if
they were in their teens.
A wise person realizes that life is a cycle of stages and
seasons. Just as trees cannot forever remain saplings, just as
springtime is followed by summer, summer by fall, and fall by
winter, so is it with man. Whether we like it or not, days go
by and years roll on and we change. In describing the human
morning they are like grass that springs up afresh; by evening
it is cut down and withered" (Ps. 90:5-6).
There is the familiar story of an elderly man who
complained to his doctor about his aches and pains.
After a careful examination, the doctor said to him, "My friend,
I am sorry but there is nothing I can prescribe for you that will
make you younger." To which the man replied, "Who wants
you to make me younger! All I want you to do for me is to
make it possible for me to become older!"
The Yalkut maintains that old age should not make us
despair, for there is a way to grow old gracefully. It is the
way of Abraham who personified the verses quoted above,
and therefore was "blessed with everything."
One of the glorious characteristics of youth is its
tremendous capacity for dreams, its firm belief in goodness,
kindness and justice. As we grow older some of us tend to
become weary, cynical and pessimistic. We throw our ideals
overboard in the hope of making our boat easier to navigate in
the face of the turbulent waters of life. The Yalltut testifies
that Abraham not only ascended the mountain of the
Lord but remained there unto the end of his days.
He did not strip himself of the noblest spiritual dreams of youth,
but remained a vibrant and creative idealist until the end.
Let me read to you a poem by H. S. Fritch, entitled "How
Old Are You?" which makes this point clear.
Age is a quality of mind.
If you have left your dreams behind,
If hope is cold,
If you no longer look ahead,
If your ambitions' fires are dead,
Then you are old.
But if from life you take the best,
And if in life you keep tbe jest,
If love you hold,
No mattes how the years go by,
No matter how the birthdeys fly,
You are not old.
The next thing we are told about Abraham is that he grew
in learning all the time; that he was thirsty for the word of
God and kept adding to his fund of knowledge. The Yalkut
interprets the verse "Strength and dignity are her clothing"
as zeh levushah shel Torah , as referring to the
mantle of learning, the garments of knowledge.
Many of the immortal artists of the Renaissance period
produced their great works late in life. Da Vinci, Bellini,
Titian, and Michelangelo achieved greatness when they were
advanced in years. Goethe wrote Faust when he
was past eighty, and Moses worked until the age of one
hundred and twenty. An engraving of the sirteenth century
shows an old man sitting in a child's chair. The inscription
above the engraving is Ancora Impora --"I still learn."
Michelangelo used to repeat this phrase often as he kept
working on his masterpieces in old age.
Long ago Hillel proclaimed, "He who does not increase
knowledge decreases it; he who does not study is not worthy
of life" (Ethics of the Fathers 1:13). We either go forward
or backward; up or down.
We live in a world in which there are new ideas and new
developments every day. There are a myriad of old things we
do not yet know. This is particularly true with respect to
Jewish knowledge. How many Jews know the Bible, the
Mishnah, the history of their people, Jewish customs and laws?
When people retire they have no longer the excuse that
lack of time is responsible for their ignorance of Judaisn.
Why not spend the "golden age" in supplementing and
adding to one's score of knowledge?
The third condition which was present in Abraham's old
age, and which we ought to emulate, is maaseh hatzedakah ,
works of righteousness and benevolence. Nothing deepens and
broadens life more than the assumptions of new duties and
responsibilities which help others.
I know elderly people, in good health, who spend the
twilight years of their life sitting on benches in the park, or
walking aimlessly in the street, or sitting near a window and
staring at passers-by. Think of it! There is a tremendous
shortages of nurses and orderlies in hospitals; synagogues
need worshippers and workers; Israel is in desperate need
of help. With all this to be done these people spend their
leisure years in idleness and boredom. Compare them with
those who volunteer their services to hospitals and homes
for the aged, who attend classes in Talmud, Mishnah or
Jewish history, who read a good book or labor in the
vineyard of the Lord; compare them with people, not very
young in age but young at heart, who do not stay home and
vegetate because they know there is work to be done and
help to be offered--and you will know what I mean. These
followers of Abraham are a blessing to themselves and to their community. Their labors and friendships keep them occupied
and interested, and they have no time to feel sorry for themselves.
They forget their twinges, aches and pains, and by making
themselves useful, are having a grand time.
The French artist Miller once said to his students, "The
end of the day is the proof of a picture. That which stands
the test of the twilight hour is true art." Similarly that person
who stands the test of the twilight hour of life has passed the
test of character with flying colors. Like Abraham he can say
that he was "blessed with everything."
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